COMMUNICATION KILLERS

In the context of relationships, especially marriage, the Bible offers guidance on how to foster healthy communication and avoid communication killers. While the Bible doesn’t explicitly list communication killers, it provides principles that can help identify behaviors and attitudes that are detrimental to relationships. Here are some communication killers:

1. Lies and Deception: Dishonesty and deceit can erode trust and damage a relationship. “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.” – Ephesians 4:25
2. Harsh Words and Anger: Speaking harshly and in anger can hurt and wound a partner. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” – Proverbs 15:1
3. Gossip and Slander: Speaking negatively about your partner behind their back can damage their reputation and the relationship. “Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered.” – Proverbs 11:13
4. Ignoring and Withholding: Refusing to communicate or withdrawing emotionally can lead to feelings of abandonment. “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” – 1 Corinthians 7:5
5. Pride and Selfishness: Putting your own needs and desires above your partner’s can create conflict and distance. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” – Philippians 2:3
6. Unforgiveness: Holding onto grudges and refusing to forgive can poison a relationship. “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
7. Lack of Listening: Failing to listen actively and empathetically can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” – James 1:19
8. Critical Spirit: Constantly criticizing and finding fault with your partner can be destructive. “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?” – Matthew 7:3
9. Uncontrolled Tongue: Speaking without considering the impact of your words can lead to hurtful or damaging statements. “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips!” – Psalm 141:3
10. Neglecting Prayer and Seeking God’s Guidance: Failing to seek God’s guidance in your relationship can lead to poor communication and decision-making. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” – Philippians 4:6.